The end of semester crunch is always insane with final projects, solidifying summer plans, looking forward to Haverfest, and the million other things on your mind. But the end of sophomore year also comes with some social challenges. If you’re going abroad the opposite semester as a friend, or you are going abroad for a year, it can be daunting to say goodbye for such a long time. Not to mention, now that you’ve had the chance to get to know some upperclassmen pretty well, you’ll have to say goodbye to your senior friends in the next few weeks.
Goodbyes are tough and added with the stress of the end of the year can cause quite a lot of anxiety. But here are a few things to keep in mind.
If you’re going abroad…
This part of the process is tough because you’re saying goodbye to one part of your life (Haverford) for now but it hasn’t been replaced yet (i.e. you haven’t gone abroad yet). But remember that once you go abroad, you’ll be wonderfully overwhelmed with all of the awesome “gains” you get from studying abroad even if right now it seems like the “losses” (e.g. time with friends) are more salient. Know that this is just part of the process and make sure to take advantage of the resources the Study Abroad Office has to offer.
If your friend is going abroad…
Junior year can be a bit disjointed and a little scary to think about with a good chunk of the class studying abroad at some point. But try to revel in all of the stories that you’ll get to share with your abroad friends about Haverford – you’ll be responsible for keeping them in the loop about the Ford. While it can be really hard to say goodbye to a friend who is leaving, look forward to getting to know other members of your class and community. Some of the best friendships are formed in unlikely circumstances. And keep in mind how epic the reunion will be when everyone is reunited!
If you’re saying goodbye to senior friends…
Just because your senior friends are graduating doesn’t mean that they’re not going to be your friends anymore. While you can’t go on late night Wawa runs with them next year, you’ll now be their main connection back to Haverford. So you’ll get to tell them about how silly foam party was since they won’t be there with you. Plus, you’ll now have a network of friends beyond the limits of Haverford. Utilize this! You can even try to visit some of your Haverford friends over fall or winter break.
Here are a few things you can do:
Let your friends know! Share your feelings. Have a conversation about ways to stay in touch. Consider trying some fun form of communication like snail mail. Don’t silently freak out without letting your friends know so they can support you. Also, consider going to CAPS if you think it’d help to talk it out and get some advice.
Depending on your finals load (if you are super overwhelmed and don’t have much wiggle room with your work, then definitely don’t worry about this), consider trying to finish up your work early. Even having the last Thursday and Friday to get a chance to find your friends and say goodbye is really helpful.
Above all, remember that even though a lot is changing, everything always works out. Do your best not to stress out, enjoy the last few weeks, and remember to reach out for help when you need it.